Poor communication skills is the number one reason relationships do not work. Being prone to angry outbursts and talking to people in a disparaging way catches up with you in the long run. What can you do? Start with something called awareness.
Recently, the Washington Post reported that Alec Baldwin lost his temper again threatening to become violent towards a flight attendant when she asked him to turn off his phone. As if that was not enough, Baldwin cancelled his Twitter account because a reporter wrote that his wife tweeted during James Gandolfini’s funeral.Give me a break! Why should he care? Because the guy’s riddled with complexes.
Yes anger and getting reactive are good places to start to understand your complexes. We all have them. What most people don’t realize is that they have us. If he hasn’t tried it I would recommend meditation for his anger management. It just isn’t cool to treat other people badly! But then again you have to want to change.
Despite how he or people think he “gets away” with this kind of behavior, I really do not believe this is how Alec wants to be. I feel badly for him, as I do not think this is something Alec can control. Most people have no idea how much of what they think, feel, and how they act is unconscious… not within their conscious control.
Hilary Rosen, a Washington media strategist who has known him since college said this behavior is part of his persona.She is right, but living life with a persona is not an enlightened way to live either.
Unlike what his friend Rosen said, I do not believe “his outbursts are as authentic as everything else.” Yes be may be a passionate person and feel passion about his charitable causes, but the outburst are really childish and suggest a lack of personal growth. I am sure he has had his share of therapy, but this is part of the problem, therapy today is too based on whining, complaining, navel gazing, diagnoses and medications.
In my upcoming book The Nirvana Diet™ which is based on the coaching work I have done for over ten years, I talk about the persona and complexes… how to acknowledge and move beyond them. The persona was concept developed by Carl Jung, the wise Swiss psychiatrist who was Freud’s contemporary but whose work is unfortunately not as well known. The persona is the big complex made up of many little complexes we form that functions as a band aide of sorts for our wounds.
The problem is that the persona is an adaptation of the real you.. it’s more how you think people want you to be. As an archetypal astrologist and coach, it seems obvious that Alec’s persona which is prone to fiery outbursts is very resonant with the Mars archetype. Without really knowing his real birth time I could not be certain, but using the reported 12pm time, validates this. That’s what i found, Mars located in 7th house aspecting his 1st house. This usually creates relationship issues and a fiery hot-headed personality.
The persona may help cover up the wounds and vulnerabilities, but it does not serve the evolution of the person’s character which is really what matters in the long term. It also suggests poor social skills which do matter in the long run no matter how much you think you get away with it.
What I learned is that living behind a persona is usually destined to create unhappiness as it keeps us from experiencing our deepest longing, which for most of us is to be loved unconditionally for who we really are. This by definition may include vulnerabilities or aspects we are ashamed of … but until we are able to peel back the layers of the mask we wear and become transparent, we will probably never really be authentic and probably never feel loved.
The bottom line is that people have to want to change and no longer feel as if the behavior longer pays off. To change your personality reality you have to start with your personality. I would recommend Alec try meditation. Meditation teaches awareness and helps us to pay attention to what and when we get triggered… then we can ask ourselves…Why?
I like to look at the root meaning or words to understand the true meaning. Lets take psychology which is a combination of psyche and logos. Psyche is more than the conscious mind, it has been defined as soul or spirit. Logos is the word or meaning. Psychology then originally meant the study of the meaning or word or the soul. Depth implies illumination of that which is not visible. You could say the unconscious is not visible but the more it is made conscious, the more we are operating from a place of self-knowledge which I believe is the point of life…to understand and make sense or meaning of our life. It is unfortunate that today psychology is dominated by behavioral stud, pharmacology, canned diagnoses that attempt to medicate symptoms.