Notice I said being or feeling, you may not actually be overweight, but you don’t feel like you are thin enough so you don’t feel sexy or like having sex. Research shows that your sex drive, sometimes called libido is related to your confidence levels. Libido is not just limited to sex it also relates to passion for life. Cindy Meston, Ph.D., and director of Sexual Psychophysiology at the University of Texas, determined that the more we compare ourselves to what the fashion world wants us to think is sexy, which is of course thin, the less attractive we feel. It is the comparing that has to go. I would also suggest that women have an unrealistic notion of how much they should weigh, and this sabotages not only your weight loss goals but also according to Dr. Meston’s research your confidence levels.
I think if we asked most guys, they would not think the thin body type is sexy. In fact this has been proven guys like an hour glass shape. It has to do with unconscious thoughts about reproduction and child bearing which persist well beyond the child bearing years. More importantly, I think you would find that more than body type, guys find confidence and an over feeling or being at ease with yourself and others to be sexier than being thin. That’s the problem, if being thin is the benchmark or touchstone for confidence we have it all wrong.
One thing you could do to remedy this is to start exercising. It turns out that exercise makes you not only feel better but gives you more confidence and energy which of course will make you feel sexier. Dr. Meston’s research supports this. According to her research, doing just twenty minutes of cardio in your target heart rate for burning fat increases your sex drive or libido by as much as 150 per cent.
So if you want to feel sexier, more confident and have a more exciting life, stop comparing yourself to a cultural ideal that is not even attractive to most men. Second I would start exercising. Once you do those two things, you will find you eat healthier. Finally being or feeling comfortable in your own skin is a mindset. When you look in the mirror… like what you see back. More than how we look it is the light we have, the energy with which we vibrate that people find attractive. If you want to get a jump start on your confidence, download the hypnosis MP3 I have on my webiste called Unlock Your Potential.
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