Many people overeat and can’t break free from their bad habits because the habits are serving a purpose.These habits keeps you from dealing with what is underlying it… What we really want- to be happier and find more meaning and purpose in our lives.
Research shows that we are not that good at figuring out what makes us happy. There are a lot of myths about happiness. So if you think that just by losing weight or fulfilling any one “goal” you will be happy, you may be surprised.
The real power lies in why you want to lose weight, to find a bigger meaning to what you want and focus on that; such as improving your health, or having more energy to do fun things with your loved ones. Most of the myths you will see are around the fact that we seem to misinterpret pleasure for happiness.
Re-Defining Real Happiness:
1. Happiness is a final destination…you aren’t suddenly happy one day. Taking care of yourself and your “happiness” factor requires a daily commitment and certain habits you were not necessarily born knowing.
2. Being happy depends on how your day is going. When you understand nothing is bad or good, it’s all how you see it you’ll understand how happiness is an inside job.
3. I’ll feel good about myself after…having a daily spiritual practice like sitting in meditation and or journaling will help you feel a deep sense that things are unfolding “perfectly”…as they are without feeling tossed about by the “ups and downs” of life.
4. Eating and pleasure is happiness. The fleeting happiness that is pleasure based will never satisfy you in the long run.
5. Denying your feelings make you feel better. Your feelings serve an important function, to serve as an internal guidance system. If you make a habit of listening to your feelings, they will give you clues as to what you need to do to get back on track.
6. You’re really okay with the way things are and don’t like change. Why have a life that is just ok? If deep within you sense there is something more…it never too late to get on the right destination that will help you fill what is missing.
7. You either are happy or you are not, it’s a character trait. There are actually skills, and ideas you can learn that can help you turn lemon in lemonade, enrich yourself by learning from your life, and feed what your soul is really hungry for…and it’s not what gets talked about on TV or in the media.
So what is it that makes us happy? Finding meaning in our lives and doing things that bring meaning to our lives. If you figure out how to do this, you will find it becomes easier to lose weight, and to change any unwanted habit that is really a cheap substitute for what you really want. Let me know what you think makes you happy.
[…] When you think about it, this association with food and feelings or dis-ease roots back to when we were babies. When a baby cries often the first thing that is done is to give the baby a bottle… food … or something that is associated with an oral fix. The problem is it may not be food the baby wants, but crying is the only way it can get your attention. It could be that the baby is tired or has a wet diaper and is uncomfortable. The mother or caregiver has to figure out what the baby is trying to communicate. It’s the same thing with seeking comfort in food or feeding craving. It could be your body or your emotions are trying to get your attention. Your job is to try to understand what the feeling is trying to tell you or what you really need. […]